“A clearly focused approach for more vibrant relationships!

Elliott Kronenfeld has created a systematic and thorough program to help your relationship become more intentional at any stage. If you’re a couple seeking to enrich emotional and sexual connection, you might be most drawn to chapters on setting the scene for intimacy, and the power of curiosity and alignment. If you’re recovering from the fallout from an affair, the chapter on self-care might be transformational.

The book includes all sorts of relationships — straight, gay, bi, poly, monogamish, and more. Examples and exercises abound, with encouragement to engage throughout — so that you become a co-creator in your developing couplehood as well as receiving excellent guidance from an expert.”
— Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT | Author of Exploring Desire & Intimacy and The Heart and Soul of Sex

“Participating in Couples by Intention gave us a lot of tools and language that we were able to take back to apply to our relationship as well as other relationships in our lives.”
— "Allison"

“As a couple’s therapist, I am excited to recommend this book to clients who are looking to create more connection in their relationships. I know that the valuable insights he shares, as well as the interactive exercises provided, will lead to growth and positive change for many couples.”
— Amy Krasner, LICSW

“Elliott’s group brought many gifts to us. We learned we are not alone, that other people have similar issues to us and we found inspiration in the progress other couples made. We always left feeling motivated and uplifted. He gave us a lot of tools and language that we were able to take back to apply to our relationship as well as other relationships in our lives.”
— "Blake"

“Couples by Intention is a Gem!

All the expertise of an experienced couples’ therapist is offered in a highly readable and engaging narrative. Readers will feel like they have a wise and caring friend sitting next to them, giving them practical strategies, telling them instructive stories, all delivered with warmth and compassion.
Different from other books on this topic, and more revelatory, Couples by Intention explores Kronenfeld’s innovative couples’ therapy group in great detail. The tools and strategies come to life in this group, as do the people in it. Readers will undoubtedly resonate with the couples’ stories and struggles, and will benefit from witnessing their healing.
This is a great resource for couples and clinicians alike.”
— Miri Skolnik, Psy.D. | Assistant Dean, Student Support Services, MIT



"This book teaches really powerful relationship skills. It just makes sense but is written in a new way. I think everyone should buy this book."

- Reader | Barnes & Noble


"My wife and I participated in the Couples by Intention group and this book is a true representation of our experience. This group strengthened our marriage and the book is a great resource to keep working!"

- Reader | Barnes & Noble


"A must read relationship book!

This is a great book... easy to read and understand but chock full of important relationship lessons! Elliott makes relationships real."

- Joseph | Amazon


"Elliott has created a thoughtful, modern approach to enhancing intimacy within relationships. The case study material helps to show how to move towards intentional commitment to our partners and allows our own explorations deepen, as we are not alone."

- Lindsay B. | Amazon


"Useful and tangible information for couples!
Such a great read! Elliott's humor and wit is throughout this dynamic and effective book. I highly recommend it and use the exercises it includes with the couples that I work with and have seen great benefits from his method of creating and cultivating curiosity in relationships. Thanks for sharing!!"

- Jennifer T. | Amazon


This is an excellent resource for anyone who is part of a couple or a therapist working with families, couples and individuals. Very well written. Highly recommended!”

- Reader | Amazon


"What a great book.

So much helpful information and so easy to read. This is great for not only romantic relationships by any relationship, friend, co-worker, etc."

- Reader | Barnes & Noble


"This book is a must read - whether you are in a new relationship or in a long-term relationship, it is geared for all ages and stages in a relationship. Elliott helps you navigate the waters, giving you fresh vocabulary to better communicate with your partner. He writes in a very non-threatening tone; it is sprinkled with humor to help with serious and difficult topics. It is a quick read but "exercises" are suggested throughout the book to facilitate greater self-awareness. Most of us have not been given the tools to navigate (effectively communicate with) our most important relationships; however, Couples By Intention provides readers with the insight to connect with those you care about the most."

- Maria | Amazon


"Couples by Intention is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve the quality of their relationships with others. The exercises are illuminating and incredibly useful, and Elliott's unique approach and perspective provide a new and invigorating way to develop stronger connections in one's life.  I highly recommend this book! "

- Tiane J. | Amazon


"A must read for any relationship!!

Elliott Kronenfeld is a gifted writer and provides such valuable insight into a successful relationship. His book is easy to follow and so helpful. I highly recommend this to anyone in a relationship."

- Melissa R. | Amazon


"Elliott Kronenfeld has created a meaningful way to work with couples. His book is easy to read, easy to incorporate but brings some quick results. I highly recommend this book"

- Reader | Barnes & Noble


"This book was an easy read and was difficult to put down. I highly recommend this book be read by all couples, young or old, married or single, gay or straight, who for some reason or reasons are at odds with each other. Elliot has a way of looking at and understanding the many problems that may exist in almost any relationship. In this book he speaks of several scenarios presented to him by patients and his recommendations for correcting the issues at hand. He has a way of getting them to open up to him, to each other, and occasionally to other couples. His interviewing technique is the best. His solutions are understandable and concise, opening the way for many couples to be able to correct their own misunderstandings themselves, with each other, or with family members."

- Marvin W. | Amazon


"Great concepts and interventions - on how to be helpful to couples!!!
2 key points I loved about Elliott's book:
Intimacy = balancing safety with vulnerability... this is a simple but elegant definition, when I work with my couples this is what I help them strive for...
Monogamy Scales!!! Very clarifying!"

- Reader | Amazon


"A creative, insightful and thoughtful approach to couples therapy.
What I love about Elliot Kronenfeld's, "Couples by Intention" is it deals directly with many current issues couples are facing in today's relationships. Elliot is able to navigate with couples what can be difficult topics for them to talk about such as sex, betrayal,intimacy, monogamy, non-monogamy, or even being monogamish and so much more. Another aspect I loved about this book was the graphs which plot out for couples their differences or similarities. Finally, each reader is asked to keep a journal where many of the difficult issues presented are reflected on and the reader can learn more about themselves and gain clarity on the each topic."

- Peg H.D. | Amazon


"Loved this book. Definitely some wow moments. Though I’ve always kept a personal journal, the use of a journal with this book is worth the effort. I was amazed at how many things I could recognize about myself. My husband will be the next to read this.
I would highly recommend this for any couple & it would definitely be a great bridal shower gift as well.

You can teach an old dog new tricks!"

- Reader | Amazon


I cannot say enough wonderful things about this book. Elliott is a creative, insightful and wise clinician. I am a couple's/sex therapist myself and have recommended this book to my clients and so far, so great!! I particularly enjoy the reflective exercises, they get you thinking, which is exactly what I aim for in my work with clients. Thank you Elliott for sharing your work with us!!!!!”

- Paola Rodriguez | Amazon