Reaching your goals is challenging. Create a structure that keeps you on target by using language you relate to everyday. Create a focus that you can apply in every setting!
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Being enough in a relationship can be confusing and leave us feeling misunderstood. But what really is enough in relationship? Who do you need to be enough for? Learn what being enough really means!
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We often hear patience is a virtue. What does that really mean? When we are feeling impatient, we need a strategy to cope better and make meaningful decisions!
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Mindfulness and self-reflection can be deeply challenging. Journaling can be a wonderful and meaningful way to start a process of self-knowledge and awareness. Learn one way of creating a journaling practice that has value for you!
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Personal growth is challenging and requires the ability to rise above the obstacles that tether us down. It requires great insight and the ability to tolerate the pain that self-reflection can bring. Learning to do the work often means we need a guide who has our back and help us see what is hard for us to look at.
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Being a great sex partner requires that you understand the nuances of the different experiences you and your partner(s) are having. Differentiating between the sensual, sexual, and erotic experiences helps to bring greater meaning and connection to your play. Learn how describe the different sensations and meanings you are bringing to your relationship!
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Being in successful relationships means that we will be hurt along the way. How to manage those hurts and recover and bring the relationship forward requires new perspectives. Regardless of whether you are the injured party or the partner who caused discomfort, forgiveness, trust, and security are the cornerstones. Learn how to engage them successfully!
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We all have burdens… and sharing them helps to create better relationships! There is a difference between being a burden and having burdens. Understand why sharing burdens creates value and trust.
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You can’t be in a relationship without one good manipulation a day! Learn the healthy aspects of manipulation that result in better connection!
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Vulnerability can separate us or bring us closer. Vulnerability can be about creating safety, or strength. Learn the difference!
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We can often complicate situations by being stuck in the stories in our head. Learning how to reframe those stories and create ways for change and awareness opens new possibilities for connection and healing.
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Listening is not easy, and we are never taught how to do it well. Learn the strategies of listening to ensure that you are showing up in the ways that are the most meaningful!
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Great relationships are based on an exchange of energy and investment. Learn how Social Exchange can help you grow into a relationship-centered life..
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Feeling overwhelmed in life? Is your relationship taking the hit? Sacred space may be the answer for you! Learn how to rebalance!
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“But” sex is the sex we miss out on because we always have a “but” on why we won’t move forward. Learn what to do in “but” sex!
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One of the more common experiences I have is watching someone struggle with the pressure to always have an answer or response in a high value discussion. It can be so disconcerting when someone is asking our opinion, looking for our agreement, or an explanation and we feel we cannot give it.
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So many people come to me overwhelmed with the stress of life, competing responsibilities, losing intimacy and erotic connection due to the complexity of life. Parenting children, work, managing finances, extended family, having a meaningful social life, getting to the gym, and so on and so on and… These are things that couples commonly credit with the death of connection…
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In this exciting age where families look different and are being built by all types of people, the ways to parenthood are many. For LGBTQ+ folx, there are options for fertility preservation, adoption, foster care, Big Brother/Big Sister, co-parenting, and more. The path to parenthood requires intentionality, support, and the need to involve others. These opportunities also bring challenges to the intended parent(s) as they navigate through the reality that parenthood does not “just happen” after a night of sex. Very often LGBTQ+ intended parents enter the process with the assumption that “we just need the right parts and plumbing”. Even if that is true, issues of medicalization take on a new meaning for bodies that are already socially scrutinized…
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Getting what we want, what we feel we deserve, and what we hope for often feels out of reach and inconceivable. This is can be particularly daunting when we consider intimate and loving relationships. In my years working as a sex and relationship therapist, people have shared with me how they struggle to find the right relationship, or if they are in a good relationship, how to dig deeper and get their needs met…
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For those that have been reading my blog posts for a while, you will recall that I start every year off, not with a set of resolutions, but with a word of the year. I do not make resolutions because as soon as you miss the mark once, you have failed. I will go to the gym 3 times each week becomes the source of self-shaming, frustration, and guilt as soon as you do not make the mark (and I venture, that moment usually comes before the end of February.) Instead, I choose a word that becomes a perspective to set context for the different journeys I will take for the year…
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